How do you gain your employees' love and respect?

By reciprocating the same love and respect.. 

simple

give respect <<<<< get respect

Just to be fair, transparent and clear with them

By encouraging them and giving them incentives based on their performance.

By fair treatment, giving them the benefit of the doubt, standing in their favor whenever and wherever possible in their daily duties and the payback for their good efforts

By following basic people management techniques... Follow what you say (set example), Be a solution provider not a problem creator, Empathize with team members, Involve team members in decision making process, provide opportunities to people without bias, being impartial during conflict resolution, etc.......

This doesn’t mean snooping or putting on a false interest, but instead showing genuine interest in those you lead.

If you change direction, make sure that you explain clearly to your team why you did so. It’s also advisable to involve your team in setting direction, as well as when it needs to be altered.

Ensure that your team is up to date on what is going on in the organization. And the best way to do this is face to face. Make judicious use of email.

Show leadership by starting with yourself. Lifelong learning is not a9 to5 proposition; it’s about how you absorb new experiences at work and through community service, training courses, assignments, reading, travel, etc. It’s a reciprocal process: employers provide opportunities to learn and grow, but employees also need to engage in activities outside of work.

As much as it’s good to do some outside socializing with your team, take particular care as manager to never be seen as creating favorites, which can occur through social activities.

Be open and honest. Don’t whitewash performance reviews; this doesn’t help anyone and deludes people (especially newer recruits) into believing they’re doing a good job. But acknowledge and recognize superior performance. And be sure to link performance reviews to learning activities. Performance and learning go hand in hand.

NEVER make fun of others at their expense. This shows your own insecurity. And don’t tolerate others making fun of those who may be more vulnerable. Lead by example.

Avoid micromanaging your staff. As they gain work experience and grow, keep the tension on by giving more responsibility and leadership opportunities. As manager, park your ego.

This is a powerful way to demonstrate your leadership to your team and to underscore that you’re not above them; you’re a human being.

When your staff make mistakes or get caught up in organizational politics or are in trouble, don’t abandon them in an attempt to cover your own a**. If you can’t stand behind one of your team members, then you don’t belong in management, and you’re certainly not a leader.

We can say allot about that, but simply: 

Be Their IDEAL manager

Simple! Give and take.

Support & Soft communication, Empathy, Generous, Leadership, Feedback,