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A good leader will recognise the character types of their staff and facilitate a variety of opportunities where every person can find a comfortable way to contribute. Sometimes shy people are scared to jump into a conversation but where the leader facilitates well and gives a person a directed opening to speak they will happily speak. People are not the same and everyone works better under different circumstances a great leader will find those opportunities and make them work for the team. Same as in training some people need it verbally whilst others tune out and need pictures or writing. People do not usually choose to be shy it is quite often manifested from culture or prior abuse or bullying. The kindest thing you can do for a shy person is be supportive and encourage them without being judgemental.
Thanks for the invitation Mr. Naeem.
Yes, a forum can help a shy person polish his/her speaking power and enable them to stand and speak for themselves whenever the need arises.
So far as I am concerned, I am not at all a shy person. I am, ALHAMDULILLAH, an eloquent speaker who can speak confidently in front of a countless mob. I not only take stand for myself but for any person who is being treated wrongly, but, with a very calm and calculated demeanour.
There is no need to always speak up, sometimes silence is the best reply one can give. Inside the work area, if there is a conflict, it is best to reduce the conflict to a minimum by keeping to yourself or by addressing the situation to the management. In the outside world however, it is perfectly fine to step back and allow a situation to clear.
If you are a shy person at some point it is absolutely important that you take a stand. I used to be shy personally, but like many say, you must "Get out there" and the only way to effectively do this is to allow your mind to speak which requires many to open their mouths!
Personally I'd stand up for anybody that is being wronged or being judged based off of incorrect information. However if it has anything to do with me, "wrong doing", I typically like to relax and allow it to blow over, BUT if it is the wrong information I do not hesistate to correct that information with proof provided if possible.
I believe in a Forum. This gives like minded to share their experience and knowledge that may form synergy in that area and may reach different people too.
Shy is altogether some other subject to dealt with. Professionally we call it Introvert. This person formed his/her own shell basing experience from the childhood. Such person may open up and speak at length but within the familar group. He/she will be shy among unfamiliar alone. If he or she is familiar in the forum, may not feel shy to open up but someone new is added into, then may try to keep aloof until that someone become familiar to.
I have seen some introvert buried their opinion within themselves even when they are aware that the end has come to open up to speak.
I will not speak up for such but train that person to come out of the shell to speak up. Because we may not be everywhere, everytime with such people when need arise for that person to speak. We must make them aware the outside world is not that cruel as they imagined.
I agree with Mr Randall answers, thanks for the invitation. .
First of all, thank you for your smart question.
I think that engaging in a discussion forum; being shy or open..all these issues refer to the fact that the art of communication is not mastered by just knowing what to say , and how to say it , when to speak and when you should remain silent .
For me a big factor is knowing when to say it! Sometimes I get crazy when so often people sit back and say nothing when something really needs to be said! It could be an idea, a suggestion, an observation, a criticism...but for some reason they don't want to speak up, they let me struggle for the reason of their silence! Truth
So the issue is to know why someone is shy or remains silent? My monologue says he may be afraid of hurting another person, or avoid looking stupid or silly , so can't tell his/her views openly . If we all do so that will make a mess of communication in our lives. Sometimes, I think that it seems like staying silent is the wiser choice but here are five reasons why despite the risk, standing up and saying your peace is the best choice than being shy or silent .
1. Silence is deemed approval.
You may think that staying silent keeps you from being involved in any conflict, but quite the opposite. Silence is as much an active form of communication as talking. Anytime you are involved in a situation, people are aware of all the input and lack of it. If you disapprove and don't say anything it will not make you seem easy going. If the problem persists and you did nothing people may consider it as enabling and think the issue is as much your fault as the person who actually caused the problem. You may destroy trust and create resentment. People rarely thank you for withholding information down the line.
2. The greater good should be the priority.
I like to believe most people are good hearted by nature! Well And many stay silent because they don't want to do any harm by offending or criticizing someone. Worse, by staying silent, you may be harming the very people you hope to help. The worst case scenario if you speak up is that someone may disagree, but at least the issue is at the forefront and an active decision can be made.
3. Demonstrate you are invested.
Why are you in the forum conversation in the first place? Someone invited you into the dynamic. If you truly don't have a stake then find a better use of your time. But if you are there for a reason you need to show your commitment to the process and the people involved by being active and vocal. Speaking up is an important form of honesty. Honesty actually builds trust, especially when combined with tact and empathy. Demonstrate that you will be truthful with people, that you care about them, and that you give good advice, and you will never lack for trusting friends and followers.
4. No one else may know.
If you engaged in a forum, you can't assume the obvious is obvious. Your experience and knowledge has value in a given situation. No one else has your unique perspective. That doesn't mean that everything in your brain is worth communicating, but with a little discretion and thought, you should be able to bring value in most situations. And your piece of the puzzle may be the most important finisher. You're also not doing yourself any favors by not sharing your expertise. People don't automatically recognize your skills, values, ambitions, and desires when you are quiet. If you wait around for people to notice or read your mind, you will likely end up on many paths that are not of your own choosing. You may end up with projects you don't want, missing promotions you do, or accepting tasks you don't have time or ability to complete. Gather up your confidence and share.
5. You may not be alone in your thinking.
It's entirely possible that your insightful observations and conclusions have surfaced in the minds of others. Others may share your thoughts and opinions, but may be also unwilling to speak up. By speaking your mind you encourage them to voice their opinions as well. If everyone holds back, the bus may silently head over a cliff. In my organization we believe so strongly that everything should be voiced in some manner that we have a core value of Bring It Up! We would sooner celebrate somebody saying something irrelevant and unimportant than lose ground or have massive failure due to group silence!
I agree with answers the experts .
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