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Yes this is hidden truth. But often fails to implement by many. And the excellent capability of a successful manager is that he is will not resort such practices instead make the subordinates uplift with proper guidance and control.
1. Appreciate what you do have.
I realized it had never crossed my mind that perhaps someone out there could be looking at me, wishing for something that I had. When you're lost in a world of comparisons, your focus is always outward, analyzing others. You forget that you already have a million and one things to be forever grateful for.
2. It's not a fair game.
As our man Einstein says, "Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid. "
We're all different, we see things differently, we've all had different experiences and come from different backgrounds. So judging ourselves to others is synonymous to judging a fish to a monkey.
3. Things are not always what they seem.
For some odd reason, we tend to make up our own judgments on people just on the way the look on the outside. You may look at two people working at the same firm, judge them both and wish to have their position, but what you do not know is while one may have got the job through his father's connections, the other had worked twenty years at the bottom of the gutter to get where he is now.
4. If you must compare, compare to you.
Some people use comparisons and convert it into motivation. And for those who can do that, go for it. It's definitely a positive spin; perhaps seeing someone's success drives you to do the same.
I often use this one, but I also believe that the best person to compare yourself to is you. Compare the present you to the past you. It's a much fairer scale and a sure way to progression and peace of mind.
5. Accept what you can not change and change what you can not accept.
Leading on from the last tip, change the things you want to and when you have, compare back to yourself and see how much you changed for the better. And with the things you can not change, accept that it was how you are supposed to be-own it, live it, love it.
