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1. Ladies: wear red
For women the color red makes them exponentially more attractive. Research has shown that men will go to great lengths to do things for a woman in red that they would not do otherwise like give her money or even carry her across the street.
2. Go to you managers with solutions instead of problems
Everyone brings problems but very few people bring solutions. If you're the one bringing solutions you will be noticed and rewarded for it
3. Try shutting up.
If someone gives you a lousy answer to a question, stay quiet and keep eye contact and they’ll usually feel pressured to keep talking and reveal more. I don't know why it works, but it always does, especially in high stakes situations like negotiations
4. Trick them into liking you
The Ben Franklin effect is a proposed psychological phenomenon: A person who has performed a favor for someone is more likely to do another favor for that person than they would be if they had received a favor from that person. An explanation for this would be that we internalize the reason that we helped them was because we liked them. The opposite case is also believed to be true, namely that we come to hate a person whom we did wrong to. We de-humanize them to justify the bad things we did to them
5. Say their Name a lot
The most charming people have the strange habit of using your name a lot. When you meet someone, help yourself remember their name by saying it a lot in conversation which has the added effect of making them like you.
6. Learn by teaching.
studies show you retain a lot more information and overall comprehension improves when you teach something you know to someone else.
7. Excitement is contagious
If you're nervous about something, cover it up with excitement and the people around you will key in and reflect that excitement. Pretty soon you won't be nervous anymore because of all the good vibes
8. Touch them a little
Touch is a powerful tool. Waiters who learn the art of unobtrusive touching are tipped more. When talking to someone lightly touch them on the arm, thigh, or knee to emphasize your points and to make them comfortable around you.
9. Be an Active listener
Ask clarifying questions, maintain eye contact, and make remarks like uh huh and really. Talk Less Say More, how to make your words sensational
10. Learn the pause
The optimal rate of speech is 3.5 words per second and you should pause 4-5 times a minute.
11. Make them think you compromised
If you want $10 start out by asking for $50. When the person refuses, ask them for the $10 instead to "help you along" they fell bad for refusing you and will jump on the opportunity to give you 10 buck.
12. Start small
This is the opposite of number 11. Instead of starting with something they'll likely refuse, start with something they can't say no to. After they agree, make a second request a day or two later that's just slightly larger. This works because of congruence, we like to stay in line with what we've done in the past. ( next time you're reading a long form sales page online, try and look for the places they make you agree to something that's a no brainer)
13. Wait until they're tired
When we're tired, our mental energy drops. We're less able to perform higher cognitive activities like weighing pros and cons in a decision. If you want to get someone to agree to something they'd normally refuse, wait until they're tired before dropping the bomb.
14. Don't tell them they're wrong
Instead acknowledge their stance, state where you have common ground, and articulate your own points. This will make them much more likely to listen to you.
15. Just nod
Nodding is a universal sign of agreement right. When you nod in front of someone they'll start to nod as well. This turns them to an agreement state of mind and sets the groundwork to allow you to ask for favors.
16. Mirror mirror on the wall
If you find yourself working with angry people a lot, put a mirror behind you. It'll force people to look at their faces and relax.
17. Focus on the process
The mind is a wonderful thing, instead of focusing on the end goal, focus on the steps you'll need to take to reach it. Your mind will come up with amazing ideas to help you reach them.
18. Use silence to deal with anger
When someone shouts or otherwise loses their temper, don't react the same way. Instead, look at them with a blank stare and keep quiet. 99% of the time they'll calm down
19. Use emotions
People don't remember you, they remember how you make them feel. When talking infuse your words with sincere emotions and people will pick up on it and like you more.
20. Frame your request as an offer
Teddy Roosevelt was running for president, his campaign printed out 3 million leaflets with a picture of Teddy and a copy of a campaign speech. The campaign then realized that they didn't have the rights to the photo. Instead of explaining the situation to the photographer, which would have given him leverage to ask for a lot of money, the campaign made an offer that they would use the picture, giving the photographer lots of publicity if the studio paid them $250. The studio paid the money.
21. Drinking games
If you're playing beer pong and your opponent is playing like he sold his soul to the Devil, all you have to do is ask what he is doing to with his opposite throwing hand.
"Damn bro you're playing hella good! What are you doing with your left hand when you shoot?"
This will make him conscious of his left hand and he will start messing up almost everytime! [1]
22. Stay silent during shit talking.
When people are gossiping, don't participate. Over time, they'll stop gossiping around you completely. They'll also begin to trust you more and tell you their deep secrets because they know you won't tell anyone.
As an added bonus, you'll fill the time reserved for shit talking with more intimate and meaningful conversations.
23. Be an honest liar
Tell the truth most of the time so when you lie it'll be taken at face value
Me, I'm dishonest. And a dishonest man, you can always trust to be dihonest. Honestly: it's the honest ones you want to watch out for. You never know when they're going to do something completely stupid." - Jack Sparrow, The Pirates of the Caribbean
24. Who's having sex with who?
When laughter breaks out in a group of people, each one will instinctively glance at whichever other individual they feel closest to in that group. People who've been naked together seem to feel pretty close
25. Argument first, stance second
Tell people what you believe first rather than why you believe it. For example if you say I'm an atheist and this is what I believe, people will discount you because they already know the motivations of your actions.
26. Be first or last
People always have the clearest memory of first and last thing that happens, while the middle becomes a vague blur. So if you’re setting the time for an interview, try and be the first or last through the door.
27. Threats into challenges
The same reaction your body has to fear is the exact same reaction you have when exhibiting courage. Reframe threats into challenges
Thanks for the invite ............................ agreed with the answers Mr. ACHMAD SURJANI
Here are the 8 best psychological tips and tricks suggested by participants in a particularly interesting thread we spotted this morning. Fake yourself happy
1.If you make the biggest smile you can, you will automatically feel happier.
2.This is based off the finding that emotional expression causes emotion. People saying “eeee” (which uses the muscles used in smiling) or made to hold chopsticks in their teeth (same thing) reported feeling happier than people asked to do similar tasks (saying “uuuuh”). eastiseast Read social dynamics
3.When a group of people laugh, people will instinctively look at the person they feel closest to in that group. Read: wanna know who wants to bone who? Look at who they look at when everyone laughs. Manticorp
4.Pay attention to people’s feet. If you approach two people in the middle of a conversation, and they only turn their torsos and not their feet, they don’t want you to join in the conversation. Similarly if you are in a conversation with a coworker who you think is paying attention to you and their torso is turned towards you but their feet are facing in another direction, they want the conversation to end. Get people to do you favours
5.This sounds a bit silly, but if you’re asking for a favour, always use the word ‘because’. I remember reading about a study done at a university where they used every imaginable combination of words to ask if they could cut in line for the photocopier, and they found that using the word ‘because’ short circuited people’s brains into believing that there’s a reason for it, even if they said something stupid like ‘could I please cut in line? Because I need to make some copies’.
6.Foot-in-the-door phenomenon. People are more likely to agree to do a task for you if you ask them to do something simpler first.
7.People have a certain image of themselves and will fight tooth and nail to cling to it. Use this information wisely.
8.I do this all the time. You can avoid insulting someone by not saying anything that shows you perceive them differently than what they’re trying to present. Or you can be a little more manipulative and make people like you by casually stroking their ego. EDIT: yes this could go wrong, especially if you have bad intentions. Not all manipulation is bad though if done on a small scale with innocent intentions.
this best psychological trick that I find useful is to say "I don't know"
Depends on how it is used and the time of use
Make Gesters with your left hand not right hand, look into the eye, be a good listener, smile when quite but look serious while talking, don't move your eyes from side to side, don't stare at objects on the table, don't scratch your head or touch your face too much, don't be constantly moving on your seat, keep your hands still while not making gestures, don't start playing with any object like a pen. Search over the web about Neuro-linguistic programming. Good luck.
