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Ten things that Mentally Strong People Avoid:
1 - Stay far from gossip, rumor and inuendo.
2 - Avoid the influence of negative people.
3 - Avoid feelings of being unappreciated or underappreciated. Bosses notice you, whether you know it or not.
4 - Avoid the urge to return rudeness to those who are rude.
5 - Actively avoid wasting time and energy on unimportant things.
6 - Avoid being late or unprepared.
7 - Avoid not meeting deadlines, even if it means overtime or working at home.
8 - Avoid being replaceable. Always take extra steps to make sure that your position is secure. Go that extra mile.
9 - Avoid cliques. Stick to doing your work to the best of your abilities, keeping relationships at work business-like.
10 - Avoid going out of your way to do favors for work friends. Work is a time for work, and a small favor leads to bigger favors, and that leads to people believing that you play favorites.
1. Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves-You don’t see mentally strong people feeling sorry for their circumstances or dwelling on the way they’ve been mistreated. They have learned to take responsibility for their actions and outcomes, and they have an inherent understanding of the fact that frequently life is not fair.
2. Give Away Their Power-Mentally strong people avoid giving others the power to make them feel inferior or bad. They understand they are in control of their actions and emotions. They know their strength is in their ability to manage the way they respond.
3. Shy Away from Change-Mentally strong people embrace change and they welcome challenge. Their biggest “fear,” if they have one, is not of the unknown, but of becoming complacent and stagnant. An environment of change and even uncertainty can energize a mentally strong person and bring out their best.
4. Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control-Mentally strong people don’t complain (much) about bad traffic, lost luggage, or especially about other people, as they recognize that all of these factors are generally beyond their control. In a bad situation, they recognize that the one thing they can always control is their own response and attitude, and they use these attributes well.
5. Worry About Pleasing Others-Know any people pleasers? Or, conversely, people who go out of their way to dis-please others as a way of reinforcing an image of strength? Neither position is a good one. A mentally strong person strives to be kind and fair and to please others where appropriate, but is unafraid to speak up. They are able to withstand the possibility that someone will get upset and will navigate the situation, wherever possible, with grace.
6. Fear Taking Calculated Risks-A mentally strong person is willing to take calculated risks.This is a different thing entirely than jumping headlong into foolish risks. But with mental strength, an individual can weigh the risks and benefits thoroughly, and will fully assess the potential downsides and even the worst-case scenarios before they take action.
7. Dwell on the Past-There is strength in acknowledging the past and especially in acknowledging the things learned from past experiences—but a mentally strong person is able to avoid miring their mental energy in past disappointments or in fantasies of the “glory days” gone by. They invest the majority of their energy in creating an optimal present and future.
8. Feel the World Owes Them Anything-Particularly in the current economy, executives and employees at every level are gaining the realization that the world does not owe them a salary, a benefits package and a comfortable life, regardless of their preparation and schooling. Mentally strong people enter the world prepared to work and succeed on their merits, at every stage of the game.
9. Resent Other People’s Success-It takes strength of character to feel genuine joy and excitement for other people’s success. Mentally strong people have this ability. They don’t become jealous or resentful when others succeed (although they may take close notes on what the individual did well).They are willing to work hard for their own chances at success, without relying on shortcuts.
10. Fear Alone Time-Mentally strong people enjoy and even treasure the time they spend alone. They use their downtime to reflect, to plan, and to be productive. Most importantly, they don’t depend on others to shore up their happiness and moods. They can be happy with others, and they can also be happy alone.
